On a daily bases we tend to make mistakes that can make us seem less friendly or even unapproachable to others. These mistakes come from our human nature and it will take a little effort to avoid making such mistakes over and over again. The secret it that these mistakes just like "bad habits" are the cause of a lot of damage; in this case it affects our relationships no matter if they are friendships, romantic relationships or even business related.
Blame and Criticism
One of the hardest things for a human to do, is admit to his/her faults. We tend to blame others rather than our selves; and when we do blame we criticize too. Criticism leads the person being criticized to act in a defensive manner and attempt to justify his/her actions. When we criticize we hurt others pride and sense of importance which almost always ends in others resentment toward us. Criticism and Blame are a great danger for our relationships with others.
Condemnation
When we expose the faults of others we are condemning them and therefore also demoralizing them. Will they thank us for doing so? Ofcourse not! They will most probably justify themselves and in return condemn you as well.
Complaint
The third most common mistake we all fall in to the trap of making is complaining. This happens because humans are not solemnly creatures of logic but mostly and first of all we are creatures of emotions. We tend to speak out of emotion before thinking of the logic reaction that our actions may cause; So the next time you have the urge to complain about a situation try to practice some self-control and understanding. Also, people who complain tend to be seen by others as a drag. Lets admit it, it is no fun to spend time with someone who finds fault in everything and who is most likely to find fault in you too.
So as the great Dale Carnegie wrote in his book "How to make Friends and Influence People"
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